Change your life personally and professionally with CBT.
In the 1960s Aaron Beck noted that certain thoughts contributed to emotional problems that he termed “automatic negative thoughts”. He developed Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) as a process to address these. CBT theory says that thoughts, emotions/feelings and physiology are connected, that our thoughts trigger our feelings and our actions.
For me, our thoughts become spoken words and actions and behaviours which become our habitual way of being and character traits.
There are 2 Universal (normal) principles of how human beings work:
Our happiness and unhappiness are due to our own thoughts, the way we think about situations. CBT helps us to work to change what we can, accept what we cannot, and loosen our attachment to outcomes. I see CBT along with other interventions as a way of reprogramming our thinking so that we feel better and achieve better.
CBT has been used effectively in treatment for a wide range of mental health conditions including anxiety, anger, depression, pain, insomnia and obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD). CBT can also be used to improve self-confidence, self-esteem, self-worth and motivation to act.
It is helpful to all age groups across the lifespan from children to older adults who want to change. Helpful in today’s world, its flexible in being effective as a face to face, virtual or self-help format. You can do CBT yourself as part of your self-development using books and media sources. I would suggest that this is a good place to start your journey.
If you would like help and support with CBT provision an experienced qualified CBT professional can be used either privately or sometimes through the NHS if referred by your GP. Costs vary dependent on your specific needs and circumstances including the number of sessions that you require.
CBT works on the basis that if we change our thoughts, feelings / emotions or actions we can alter the other two.
When we are fearful, angry or sad, we can fall into negative thinking patterns that make us feel bad. This can lead to all sorts of problems including relationships, bad habits and work issues. CBT helps to raise awareness of negative dysfunctional thoughts.
CBT explains that it is how we react to life events, not the events themselves that cause dysfunctions. It helps us to reframe our thinking by choosing thoughts that are helpful and kind. I help my clients to work through their own examples; we discuss their experience and behaviours now and talk though the new ways of being.
I set homework for my clients to practice CBT so that they can achieve their specific goals and overcome obstacles as they progress. CBT helps you to get past old, unhelpful rules and beliefs and develop and practice new ones that are helpful and become habitual.
What thoughts are you experiencing just now that you perceive as negative, unhelpful or unkind?
What could you think of instead that would be realistic and positive, helpful and kinder?
|Event||Thought/Interpretation||Feelings/Emotions & physiology|
|Boss walks past without acknowledging you||I have done something that has upset her||Anxiety, stomach tightness|
|She has not seen me she is so preoccupied||Calm/Concern|
It helps to understand a bit more about why we develop dysfunctional thinking so that we may catch ourselves doing it. We can then challenge the thought by asking if it is helpful; the answer is always no. We can then change our thinking to more helpful thoughts. There are four main cognitive distortions:
We identify the resources that you must help to resolve the issues and practice using your new thoughts and beliefs as well as monitor the impact of this new way of being on your behaviour, actions and outcomes. Before 1970 we thought that the brain was static and that what you developed through nature and nurture in your early years was what you were stuck with. Later, neuroscience research showed that we can address negative thoughts, rules and core beliefs. That through positive thinking and practising new beliefs with new behaviours alone and with others we can expand the left prefrontal cortex, the part of the brain responsible for positive thinking. Think of this as effectively rewiring your brain. This is life transforming and something that I would like everyone to experience.
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